Warning..quite a long story ahead! Today was not really a good day. Firstly I realised that my intended bday party celebration for Kieran was this Saturday and I have not finished inviting the guests and also prepare for the party! Cake also belum order! Warao, and this morning I have to go to Kieran’s school to sort out something, weyo???
I noticed yesterday Kieran came home from school with things that do not belong to him and also two packet of tissues which I didn’t give to him. I immediately questioned him and he had this very guilty look. He said he bought the tissue. I know that’s impossible as I didn’t give him money. He’s not ready to handle money as yet from the last excursion his kindy took them which was practising the use of money at the tuckshop in a primary school.
Me-Whose ruler is that (I know that ruler is not his cos it has Colin written on it la) and who gave you the money?
Me-Whose your friend & how much?
K-I don’t know…
Me-(blowing up now…) You don’t know who then why you take his ruler? Then who gave you the money??
K-I don’t know…
Me-HOW MUCH??? (shouting!!)
Me-20 sen? Are you sure?
K-errr…yes….and then I bought a drink
Me-(fuming mad by now) What? 20 sen can buy tissue and drink?
K-(looking really terrified and major guilty by now) Errr…no..another friend gave me money also
Me-Did you ask for the money or they gave you? Or did you STEAL??? (shouting leow)
K-Err..(eyes looked here and there…like side to side)No, my friend gave me RM1.00! Then I bought the drink.
Me-You are soooo dead…wait till you go home. You are also grounded. You know what that means?
K-No tv…no cartoon…no dvd…(looking down with very sad face)
So this morning I went to the school in search of his loan provider or victims of extortion! I asked him to identify the boy whom he took money from. He pointed to one.
Me-Hello, did you give Kieran money yesterday?
Boy-(pointed at Kieran) He stole my money!!
Me-Really? Where was your money when he stole it?
Boy-He stole my money! (Still pointing at Kieran) He asked me to give him money but I didn’t give. He stole my money!
Me-So how much did he take?
Boy-RM1.00. He bought vitagen..he stole my money!
Me-Ok, here’s the RM1.00, next time don’t bring money to school ok? (My head spinning and I glared at Kieran with laser eyes and went to his class to talk to his teacher).
The teacher said she can’t control the fact that the children bring money to school as they need to buy food and drinks. I was like, aiya why the parents give their kids money at such a young age leh..they really cannot grasp the concept yet ma. What do they know about money? They don’t know how it’s earned and the value of it. They just know they can buy the stuff from the shop without having to ask permission from parents! What freedom! I seriously am so against of giving money to Kieran as I have heard of how the the tuckshop sellers not returning the change to the children or selling more than what the children wanted or needed!
Then I had to do delivery after lunch, and while walking down the stairs I slipped and twisted my leg but thank God I didn’t fall flat on the road! Oscar’s mom was asking if I should go since I was like kinda shaky! I went la, work have to complete no matter what.
Then Oscar’s mom messaged me and said that she had a good talk with Kieran and found out the whole truth about the money incident. Apparently, he took money from 2 different boys, one boy was RM1.00 and the other was 20 sen. I also returned the RM1.00 to the wrong boy! So I still have owing of RM1.00 to the other boy!
Oscar’s mom made me realise that my son was too terrified of me and couldn’t talk to me. I felt so guilty and thought maybe I was too hard on him. I really don’t want to spoil him as I really cannot bear people branding him a spoilt brat. But then again, I was so heart sick and sad when I thought he actually stole money from his friend. It made me think I was a very bad mother, and wonder where did I go wrong in teaching and guiding him. Let this be a good lesson for me as I continue my struggle as a mom!
Therefore, I must thank God for giving me a gem of a friend plus excellent and efficient assistant in Oscar’s mum! She’s just amazing. I just left her the numbers and people to call and she kau tim for me! She even became my son’s councillor despite her heavy work load in the office. Thanks a lot, as usual, I’m going to be mushy about this, you are really a great help and a good friend indeed and I want you to know how much I appreciate you! Yes YOU, Oscar’s mom!
Sorry folks (you know who u r) for the late invitation, it’s been really rough the past 2 weeks and I’ve been really really busy till I think I have short term memory problem! eg.forgetting the route to the resort room..and also the party!